“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you’ve imagined.”
- Henry David Thoreau

A vital key to HAPPINESS is to LOVE YOU. Yes YOU…that person you get to live with every day of your life…

If there is something that displeases you then do something about it.

Start by asking yourself some questions about YOU and write down your answers so you can identify where these thoughts have come from:


* What don’t you like?

* Why don’t you like that about yourself?

* What are you going to do about it?

* Where did you get this belief about yourself?

* If you changed the way you thought about yourself how would your life be different?

You come up with a lot of how you feel about yourself from that inner critic that lives within you and it can be very nasty. If you spoke to your friends the way you speak to yourself you would have no friends.

We all have this voice that sometimes tells us that we’re an idiot, we are too dumb to do that, not pretty enough, are too old, that inner voice knows how to be mean when you let it have the control.

That voice stops you from putting yourself out there and taking risks…it stops you from saying things to others that you would so love to say. That inner critic can be so powerful.

The thing is you have the control over your inner critic and can stop it tearing you down. You need to learn how to make friends with your inner self and start using her for good.

Learn what triggers her and when it is that she shows up. Is it when you make a mistake, is it when you want to try something new, is it when you want to raise your hand and ask a question at a seminar? When is it that your inner voice shows up?

Once you identify and learn about your inner voice you can recognize all that mind chatter and see that it is keeping you as a victim. Ask yourself why you are so worried about that issue and keep going until you get down to the real reason of what is holding you back. When you love yourself it lifts your self-esteem and your confidence grows.

“Talk To Yourself Like You Would To Someone You Love!”
- Brene Brown

Having more confidence builds up your self-esteem or self-image. This is your opinion of yourself and how you think others see you. All the beliefs you have about yourself and the beliefs you have accepted from other people. SELF-ESTEEM is the degree to which you value yourself. Your self- image can make or break you.

Your life is all about YOU and YOU are the most important person in it. You must realize that you have the power to change anything to the way you want it to be. Your level of confidence and self-esteem is one of the most important aspects in obtaining the life you want.

Make the voice that tells you that you CAN do it much stronger and louder and listen to that voice and set yourself FREE to do whatever you want. It does take practice but it is so worth it and it starts by learning to love yourself and all that is unique and wonderful about you.

Say this mantra daily:

This Is Who I Am And I CAN Do Anything!

I would love to be able to help you see all that is so loveable about YOU.

Karen Sydne

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