PAST, PRESENT, FUTURE…   “Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”   - Michael Jordan   The past is never lost to us, we carry it with us everywhere we go. It is in every cell of our body, our soul, it is where we learned to love and it is where we made mistakes, it is where we have been. It is where we may have made wrong decisions and went down the wrong road for a time but it is also where we made some right decisions but whatever road we took it is the one that has led us to today, the present.   The gift is knowing the present is here for today and it will soon pass and the way that we embrace it and make the most of all its moments has the power to change everything tomorrow.   Appreciate where you are in your journey, even if it is not where you want to be, as every part of your journey serves a purpose and you can either learn from it and grow or feel ripped off and be resentful. The good thing is you always get to choose at how you see your life and the direction it is taking.   You can always have a better tomorrow if you decide you will. When you believe, you achieve and it creates lots of possibilities. Our own thoughts and the words we say to ourselves impact our body, our mind and our life. Don’t wait until regret’s kick in and you wish you had done this or you had done that. Do something every day towards the ideal life that you want.   One of the things that hold people back in life and it is a huge fear that hangs over some people, is they worry what other people might be thinking about them. From the moment you worry about what other people thing about you, you lose control of yourself. Really get this, - “What anyone else thinks about you is none of your business, it only ever matters, what you think about YOU!”   When you get this, it is absolutely life-changing, your potential is being stifled if you worry about what other people think. When you truly don’t care what anyone else thinks about you, you can then reach an awesome level of freedom. Remember most people will only tell you what you can’t do….be only interested in what you can do…listen to yourself!   Do what you have to do, until you can do what you want to do. At any time, the decision you make can change your life forever, it is never too late to make a different decision. It doesn’t have to carry fear with it, just decide and do it. If you make a mistake it doesn’t matter as now you know that won’t work. Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before. So be brave and go for it!   Live your life to the fullest – don’t get to the end of your life and regret the choices you never made…it is too late; the past has been and gone and nothing will change it. Decide now today, what kind of life do you really want and then say NO to everything that isn’t what you want.   No 1 regret of the dying… “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”    -   Dee Britton   Everything you want is out there waiting on you and it is on the other side of fear, so step up and push through your fear and just go for it, you will always learn something.   It is great to have a clean out. When you declutter, it is getting rid of the old to make room for the new. Declutter every area of your life as it brings so much clarity to you and you can then focus on where you want to go. Declutter everything your wardrobe, kitchen cupboards, car, your office, work area, filing system, storage areas, your computer and phone and most importantly yourself – your mind, values, beliefs, goals, excuses, what you tolerate, what you think you can have and not have.   Be very careful what you tolerate in your life as you are teaching other people how to treat you. What you do not hate you will tolerate. You get out of life what you accept. Be consistent and get to the next version of you, always step up to the next challenge.   Never accept just okay from yourself, go a step further and up level what you do….always do one extra thing, one more than what anyone else would do. By lifting your standards, you set yourself up for greater results and your confidence increases. Doing ‘One Thing’ extra can create massive success today and every day.   When working out always do one extra push up when you think you can’t do more., lift one extra weight, one more set. Do one extra thing with everything you do, do that extra inch, go the extra mile….this is what successful people do.   Learn from successful people…Mark Zuckerberg asks himself this question everyday – “Am I doing the most important thing I could be doing?”  So, become a whatever person and succeed in spite of anything. When you play safe you are taking the biggest risk of your life as you stagnant and don’t grow.   In our today’s world where information is there at the click of our fingertips don’t become a victim to ‘information overload’ as it can stop you in your tracks. You can fall into that trap of continually searching, feeling that you don’t know enough, as you discover another new fact that you didn’t know. Life is a journey and there is always more to learn but keep going forward and learn on the way.   “Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”    -   Ralph Waldo Emerson   What does your perfect day look like? Imagine it from sunrise until sunset….write it down clearly and precisely as there is power in writing it down. Then do something every day to move you closer to your perfect day.   If you don’t have a clear picture of what you really want…how will you know when you get it? Sometimes our lives have to be completely shaken up, changed and rearranged to take us to another place and we find that was where we were meant to be.   When you don’t expect anything from yourself, you become dependent on others. Create a confident new you, you can have the life you want. Set your goal, focus on it, make decisions and take the necessary action and anything is possible.   Holding on is believing that there’s only a past – letting go is knowing there is a future. Start where you are, with what you have. Ask yourself great questions as questions help you overcome challenges and find a solution. Ask, “what’s great about this?” or “how can I use this?”   Focus on the ‘How’ rather than the ‘Why’ as the secret to getting ahead, is getting started. Don’t wait until you reach your goal to be proud of yourself, be proud of yourself every step you take. It is far better to die with memories, not dreams, so create memories every day. No one needs to wait before starting to improve their life, their world. Very often it is a change of self that is needed and you are much stronger than your excuses, so become  an ‘I can do anything person.’   “Remember today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.” – Dale Carnegie   Never wait for everything to be perfect before you begin as what is perfect, it is only your perception of it. Perfection is like procrastination; it stops you in your tracks and is the killer of your dreams. You don’t have to be extreme but just start, keep focused, be consistent and anything is possible. Also take time in your day to smell the roses, press pause regularly and just breath….it brings more clarity to your mind allowing new ideas to come to you.   It helps to do the things first in your day that you don’t want to do, get them cleared off your list and then you don’t have to stress thinking about them. For instance, like that phone call you don’t want to make, just pick up the phone and do it, the relief you feel is enormous.   There are no limits to what you can achieve, except the limits you put on yourself by your own thinking. The magic happens when you believe in yourself. To get experience – you have to first have the experience, so I am a great believer in…Just doing it, start before you are ready and you can make anything happen. Life changes very quickly when you have a positive attitude.   Look ahead into the future and see yourself doing what it is you want and feel how it would make you feel, what are the emotions you are experiencing. When you can see the picture as really happened, it can’t help but happen, you do become limitless and unstoppable!   As Dr Joe Dispenza says – “How you think and how you feel, creates your state of being, when you start your day thinking about the past, the familiar past, it will become the predictable future!”  
Karen Sydne

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